Ep. 12 | 🍿Comment Chaos: Casual Sex Clash - Debating Casual Sex, Feminism, and Gender Roles
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Ep. 12 | 🍿Comment Chaos: Casual Sex Clash - Debating Casual Sex, Feminism, and Gender Roles
[00:00:00] Well, hello. Legends. Welcome back. Welcome back to comment. Chaos where we have a shit ton of fun. Don't we going through all the comments section, whether that is Instagram, YouTube, Tik TOK, my Facebook page, or even messages. I hope you're having a bloody amazing week. I sincerely mean that. So today, We're going to go through a few different posts on a few different platforms, just for the hell of it. Now, obviously I record these in advance.
So this episode that you're listening to has been recorded likely a couple of weeks before. Oh, actually, first of all, for those that are watching this on video, I have a popcorn jumper on. I hope you can see that there. I actually got a popcorn theme to jumper. I bloody love it. It fits this theme.
So, so well, but yeah, anyway, just wanted to show off my jumper there. Uh, what was I saying?
So, yeah. Obviously I record these weeks in advance, so I don't even know what episode you have list listened to already this week, what topic we're on. But [00:01:00] today, first of all, we're going to talk about casual sex.
Now I did an episode which was episode seven. I believe. Actually, let me find it.
I have found it on my phone. So it is episode seven, the 304 lifestyle, which obviously 3 0 4. I explained it in the episode is code word for hoe. If you have your calculator, you type in 3 0 4, when you turn it upside down, it spells hoe. Boys did in school, it's just, it's codeword online because it's not really the best word to have plastered all over social media.
Right? So the 3 0 4 lifestyle hookup culture, casual sex and self-worth, that was the title of episode seven. So. That has gone live at the time of me recording this that is gone live. I want to discuss a little bit about that. We're also going to talk a little bit on, some more feminism posts that I've done.
I know, I talk a lot about feminism. One it's because At the time of you listening to this, there should be three feminism related podcast. Episodes have gone live. If [00:02:00] not, the third will go live soon. So, and all different takes. Obviously the first episode I did was just about the feminist movement at large. And then I did an episode, which was episode nine, which was called behind feminism's curtain, JP Morgan Rockefeller the federal reserve and the industrial revolutions role.
And that went deep into the first wave of feminism. Potential links with the federal reserve reserve, the industrial revolution and you know, the whole feminist movement and, and, you know, the, the financial backing of it that I loved, loved that episode, like really, really loved it. And I don't know if this one is live at the time of your listening to this yet, but if not, it will be live soon for you.
And that is the one to do with feminism. And in relation to this is what it's titled the CIA, the cold war and feminism who's really in control. So. And that one's a little bit more of a conspiratorial type of episode, but yes, I've done a lot of feminism. Uh, episodes because one it's a hot [00:03:00] topic, but also I see. The feminist movement in a very different way to how most women do.
And that's why I wanted to bring a different take and a different viewpoint because obviously we often just hear one viewpoint. That is the one that is given centre stage. Right. And any different viewpoints are often just shunned to the side. So I want my voice to be loud in this space for that very reason.
I wanted to bring a different perspective to it and just say, look, let's dig a little deeper. So yes, I talk about feminism a lot. I just want you to know not every single episode is going to be about feminism, not every single social media post. Is, or is going to be about feminism, but they tend to be the ones that honestly get the most reaction because people come hard for you when you view it even remotely differently to mainstream views of feminism. So I'm going to go a little bit through some of the feminism posts as well. And a couple of other reels and something from TikTok as well.
So it's going to be fun. Buckle in, get your [00:04:00] popcorn get your chocolate. Actually, there's something I want to say. Yeah, please let me know. If you are a popcorn eater, do you just like, if you're at the movies, for instance, do you just eat popcorn or do you have to have popcorn and chocolate in your mouth at once? I'm definitely the latter. I don't mind me. Don't get me wrong.
I do like popcorn. I hate store-bought. Popcorn. I will never. I would never eat colored. Popcorn. If you are God, if you are someone that eats colored popcorn. I seriously don't know if we can be. Friends. Obviously I'm joking, but. Like that is. That is worse than dog food. Like yuck. I don't know how anyone could eat colored popcorn. But yes, I do like popcorn as if it's like fresh from like the movies.
If you're going to watch a movie and you buy a popcorn, I will absolutely eat it. Then. But it has to be the chocolate. I've got to have a bit of chocolate and a bit of popcorn in my mouth at once. It's the sugar and the salt [00:05:00] that is just not.
Can I do that enough? It is chef's kiss. I was about to say French kiss. I always get that moderate up. No, we're not French kissing. It is chef's kiss. It is the best. Where was I? That's it get your popcorn and your chocolate. That's what I was saying. And we're going to dive in right now.
Okay, we're going to go over to YouTube.
So just so you know, as well, every single episode, whether that is the Tuesday release or a Thursday comment, chaos release, they are all on YouTube for you to actually view. So yes, still listen to the episodes where you driving in the car while you're walking, whatever you're doing, cleaning your house. I don't know, in a business meeting and you just don't want to hear what they're saying, just put in your earphones and listen to me instead. Right.
But then when you want to actually watch and actually see me, like talking to you. Instead of just hearing me. Jump onto YouTube because that's where they're all there as well. So you might be watching me on YouTube right now. We are going to YouTube right now because. [00:06:00] When I actually uploaded the video.
My brain.
So we're going onto YouTube, just because there's a couple of comments there. Just so you know, at the time recording, these only have a very small audience there. There's like a couple hundred people that follow me.
And look, I knew that the, the episode on casual sex and only fans and hookup culture, so that episode seven, I knew that would be controversial because like, I don't agree with hookup culture and I've made that very clear. I really don't. I don't think it's healthy. I don't, especially for women. If you haven't listened to the episode, please go and listen to that episode.
So you get full context. I'm not saying that women shouldn't sleep around and men should. I'm not saying that at all. Definitely listened to that episode, but I have a very controversial opinion on that. And, but I make it clear in the episode it's from a biological perspective, but I just wanted to read some of the comments that are on that YouTube video there.
As I said, there's only a few. But, uh, Mr. Um, I really shouldn't read hand or should I. Mr. CISM [00:07:00] Monterey. We'll go with that has said solid summarization of what is going on. And I said, thanks for being here. It's a crazy world out there. Isn't it ha I do blame the feminist movement a bit for the backwards thinking when it comes to this topic. I want to make it clear again, I don't hate the feminist movement.
I don't have hate actually for pretty much anything in life. I'm not a hateful person. But yeah, I, I do see that the feminist movement has absolutely influenced so much of society, but in a negative light, I don't see it all as positive as what mainstream will try to say. Then we've got, um, got any glasses on Gladys, Gladys adore, right? It's ridiculous.
How few likes you got. If you made a video about hating men and sprinkle, sprinkle, you go girl comments, you'd have gotten millions of views and hundreds of thousands of likes. I do think this person has a point because it is true. I [00:08:00] know. I know, right. Let's be honest here. I could tomorrow. Decide that I would rather be liked. Then keep my own integrity and my own self-respect right.
I could do that. I could gain pretty quick popularity and you could do the same, right? You could gain pretty quick. Popularity. Not everyone yet. Again, you've got to have some level of charisma and you know, like people have to be drawn to you. But if I know that I could get very vocal about. Women have sex with whoever you want.
As often as you want, just spread your legs throughout town, go to town, woman, all power to you. Yay. The feminist movement, you know, go girl. Just, I could be completely pro everything that is preached. And I would get a lot of comments that are supportive. I would get a lot of likes for that. I would get, you know, yes, I'd still get some criticism in there as well, but my popularity would [00:09:00] probably sky rocket. way quicker than the route that I'm currently going.
Right. It is the thing, right? That if you've, if you follow mainstream and you copy mainstream views and you're very vocal about them, You are definitely
more palatable. I would say you're definitely more palatable. You're definitely more, um, accepted socially accepted. You're not seen as an outcast or you're not seen as an outlier, or you're not seen as the weirdo over there who doesn't know what they're talking about. Right. But I just can't do that.
And this isn't coming from a place of pride. It's just, it's a self-respect thing. I can't do that. I wouldn't actually like myself. I would honestly rub up. Oh the whole world, not like me. But I like myself, even though that would be lonely. I'm not suggesting that that's like some easy thing. That would be very lonely.
If the entire world didn't like me, like that would be tough. But to me self-respect is just worth way more and having my own integrity, but yeah, they have a point there and then we've also got a [00:10:00] DAMA dog. This dog, but dog DWG dog. Hey dog. Women are not a monolith. Good on you for speaking your mind, but anyone who speaks broadly of women in general, or of people in general is just grifting for money. I wasn't quite sure how to take that. I got, I could be misinterpreting it, but I see like they're not being disrespectful to me at all.
And I said, cheers for being here and joining in the Convolt cause like, thank you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking your time any day and commenting whether you agree with me or you don't. Thank you for taking the time. Out of your day to actually say something on any of my platforms. I'm always grateful for that. Um, Yeah, I just, wasn't quite sure what, what they meant.
I guess they're saying, you know, good on you for speaking your mind, but if you're speaking general of women or general of people, you're grifting for money, do you see? No, I'm not making a cent just to make that clear. I don't make a cent from any of this that I'm doing. I don't. I currently run any services. I don't currently have a business.
Like I'm not, I'm actually not making a cent from this. [00:11:00] I'm genuinely. Doing this from passion, like from pure passion and drive this, just so you know, this is something like this podcast and building this community in this audience. Is literally on my mind nearly every second of the day. Like I am that. When I. You probably relate to this.
Cause people that listen to my podcasts are pretty like high achievers, very ambitious type of individuals, but. You likely relate with the fact that when you are so driven on something and so focused on something, it's hard to think of anything outside of that you get like major tunnel vision, you become. To the point of almost like delusional self-belief like that delusional level.
And that can be taken in so many different ways, but de delusion can be seen as negative. It's like. You know, you ha you just utterly. I need to look up the word. [00:12:00]
You know, you could be seen as just.
Completely unintelligent.
Let's let's Google the word delusional characterized by or holding false beliefs or judgments about external reality. That are held despite incon.
Quite have to put big words in this book. I'm running on a bit of caffeine. I actually am not a coffee drinker. Well, that's not, that's a lie. I've never been a coffee drinker my whole life until literally last year I started drinking quarter strength, lattes, and then I've built up to half strength.
This sounds so ridiculous. I built up to half strength, but I'm nearly having one a day now and I've had a coffee and a cup of tea. And I think I've just got too much caffeine in me. You're going to laugh because if you are a big time coffee drinker having one half strength latte, Dave's really not that much, but I actually think I'm buzzing off caffeine and I can't actually [00:13:00] think straight.
That's not great. So delusional characterized by or holding false beliefs or judgments about external reality that are held despite in con in controvertible. I don't know what that word is. Evidence to the contrary. Typically as a symptom of a mental condition. Oh, my God hospitalization for schizophrenia and delusional paranoia. Okay.
Or. Based on or having faulty judgment, mistaken. They're delusional. My God. Can we just like. What is delusion in simple words. Here we go. Something that is believed to be true or real, but is actually false or unreal. So let's talk about that for a second. When you are such a go getter or you have a big dream. Like a big dream and it feels way bigger than you.
Like, I see this podcast being huge. Like I see it. I feel it in my body every day right now, to some people that will sound utterly delusional because. [00:14:00] When we look at it again, something that is believed to be true or real, but that is actually folks or unreal right now. It's not a big platform right now.
I don't make a cent right now. I don't like this is brand new. Okay. So it is to some people delusional. But I also say having a bit of delusion as really powerful, because you are believing in something greater than yourself. Despite what reality is telling you. I think there's a there's power in that.
So back to the grifting for money thing.
No, currently I'm not making a cent, but one day I will. One day. I absolutely will.
Now do you just want to change things for a second? And I actually want to talk about a message that I received from a listener. I'm not going to give any details about listeners, people. That message me because messages are very private. So, um, keep there. Identity completely private, but I did get permission from this individual first because I actually screenshotted their message.
Right. They sent me a message after listening to episode six, which is about [00:15:00] feminism. They sent me a message, private message for nobody else to see. And it was just such an incredible. Message. That I asked for their permission to screenshot it, to take their details out of it. So there was no photo, no name and share it to my Instagram stories, which they were so kind to say yes, go for it. So I want to talk about this because this message. I think it's important for us to discuss quickly.
So this is the message. Holy shit, Holly, where do I start? Episode six just blew my fucking mind. Now again, episode six was my very first episode about feminism.
Um, open-minded in here to learn. I consider myself a feminist, but now I see. And the next bits in capital letters, so many issues. With the feminism and actually understand why my marriage is not great right now because I'm bringing feminist values into it and never let him lead. And then in capital's again, mind blown. You might have just saved my marriage.
I was blaming [00:16:00] him. It's not his fault. I'll admit there was certain things you shared. I don't agree with, but honestly, the majority I was like, and again, in capitals, this makes more sense than ever. And I just want to quickly talk about it because one that was such a, a beautiful share. And I just want to say, thank you.
If you are listening to this individual, this is a female who is in a heterosexual marriage. They're married to a man. And thank you, first of all, for your vulnerability and for being so open and honest, but also thank you for being so respectful because we do see feminism slightly different. I'm sure some parts, but we see the same way.
I know some parts we do see the same and some parts we would see differently. And I just wanted to say, thank you, first of all, for your respect, to be able to say, look. Some of the things you shared, Holly, I don't agree with, but. But also, still being able to say, but look, I can see what you're saying.
I can see where you're coming from, like with my message on feminism. And I just wanna quickly talk about the fact that this is why I am talking about this topic is [00:17:00] because I do see feminism having a massive influence on the family structure. On, uh, heterosexual relationships or relationships between a man and a woman, whether they're married or not. I see feminism has massively contributed to the breakdown of traditional gender roles.
So a man. Feeling safe to be a man and a woman feeling safe to be a woman and being in her femininity and a man in his masculinity. And. This comes from personal lived experience. This comes from making mistakes in my own life from me being more in my masculine at times where. It was coming from a place of fear at times where it was coming from a place of anger. Or shame or whatever it might've been and, you know, or competition or whatever. It comes from lived experience.
And that's why I appreciate like, this message meant more to me than what this individual can probably even begin to comprehend because. This is [00:18:00] what it's about. It is about this feminism is touted as this awesome movement and yes, of course, I believe. In rights for women. Like I absolutely believe in rights for women, I think equal rights, but we're not equal in our roles.
We're not equal in our biology. There's a difference. And I think that that's where it has gone too far as a movement. Because now it's pushing women into thinking that they have to compete with men and women thinking that they have to become men in some regards and men. uh, are being told to shut up and, and by the way, I'm not putting this on the individual that messaged me.
I'm talking about the feminist movement. Men are told to shut up. Men are told to not be so masculine. Like their masculinity is this blight on society. And it's, it's this thing that should be shunned and should be ridiculed. and should be ostracised and silenced. And how dare a man be a man these days where honestly, that is breaking relationships.
I know this from firsthand experience. I know this, I have been through divorce. I have been. [00:19:00] Through marriage breakup. It is the most painful and excruciating thing. And I, I don't think it's healthy. Like I don't, I'm not a supporter of divorce. I don't think divorce is, is a great thing. I think there are places for it.
Absolutely. Yes, but I think that when a man is truly a man and a woman is truly a woman, you can make it work like you really can. If there's 50 50, if you're both really giving it a red hot crack, you can make anything work. I really believe that.
And so this is why I am so vocal about feminism. And it's not just feminism's fault as I've gone through in episodes before.
Like, I think the funding, the people that are funded feminism have a huge part to play in this because it's been for ulterior motives and for. You know, for, for their business agendas, you know, go listen to the episodes. If you haven't already, where I go over that. But. It all comes down to protecting relationships like between a man and a woman protecting that dynamic, protecting [00:20:00] family units. If it's so much bigger than me just saying, listen, I don't agree with this movement anymore.
It's all. I'd never have. Like it's, it's beyond that. It's it's about preserving femininity in a woman and preserving masculinity in a man. And I heard one of the greatest quotes is. Masculinity is built femininity is preserved, like. It's so true. A boy. Isn't like, obviously he has a level of masculinity in him as a young boy, but it is built. Throughout his life into becoming a man. The more he ages that's like the more masculine he naturally becomes a woman it's preserved. We are, we are very different. We are extremely feminine as young girls and it is preserved over time.
And if it's not preserved, we naturally will be pushed into without even wanting to, into our masculinity. And with them. With a boy. If his masculinity is not built, he will naturally go into and evolve into being more of that feminine. Right. It's yeah, this [00:21:00] topic. I'm so passionate about it again from lived experience.
And I just want to pop over to Instagram quickly to a post there that I did.
It's actually amazing. In a red dress sitting on a chair, like a queen on a throne. I do love that image a lot. But this was the post that I did. The patriarchy is systemic and steeped in every fabric of society. And I had that in inverted commerce as if somebody else is saying that to me. And I said, yep, it's called biology.
And then it goes back to it as if someone else is talking. Yeah. But we need to move past biology and realize women are oppressed and not equal. And then it's me. Hard pass full stop. The more we move away from our biology, the more we get the fruit cakes who don't know if they're Adam or Eve, they get to change it up.
Like the season, change it based on their mood. We have teachers facing disciplinary action for not meowing to a kid who identifies as a cat. We have a mother with a child being forced off an airplane for mis-gendering a flight attendant. And we have men in women's [00:22:00] bathrooms in women's sports. And now demanding, we don't have a cervix.
It's a front hole. We aren't breastfeeding. It's chest feeding. We aren't women where CIS women. Yeah, F with that, with your echo chamber of the patriarchy is bad and we are all oppressed because the world was actually a heck of a lot better before the feminist movement was taken to the extremes. Of course good came from it.
But now it's encouraging career victims. You scream a quality, but only when it suits you. And if you're questioned, then I'm automatically just a pick me woman. You want equal pay, but don't want to do the jobs that men typically want. You don't want the physically and environmentally laborist jobs. Is it the patriarchy at fault or some individual men?
Of course, there are shitty men in the world just like there is shitty women and they should be held to account, but it doesn't mean the entire sex of males had to be blamed and held for ransom. You're really just overweight victims who won't take responsibility for anything that you've done wrong in life. Is it the [00:23:00] patriarchy or the fact that you're a bitter angry woman who wants to play the victim card. Whenever you're called to take responsibility in life. Right. Pretty bold. Pretty bold.
I know it was bold. But one of the comments I really wanted to read is by Holly Loxton coach, she is a legend. Go give her a follow. If you don't already Holly Loxton, underscore coach equal rights, not equal roles. And that is a mic drop right there because. Yes women, we absolutely should have equal rights to men. Some percent right. Even if I think. Some of those rights, unlike.
Hmm. When I think of like the right to vote, I can understand why women opposed it. I. Thousand percent can understand why women are post it. There are some rights that we have gained over time that I think have not actually been that great, but that's a whole nother podcast episode, but yes, equal rights [00:24:00] as women, a thousand percent not equal roles.
And that is where I think feminism is getting it wrong. They're promoting as a movement as a modern day movement, feminism is pushing for equal roles. And I think that is where you are completely disregarding biology. Like completely disregarding it. It's not about equal roles. Equal rights. Go for it.
Go to town on that one.
Then why we're still on Instagram. I had a real, that the hook on it. So the title on that real says
Modern feminism taught women to be professional victims. We went from empowering women to empowering perpetual victims. Then in the caption, I said, feminism taught women that their lives were f*cked and that it's a trend to blame men and the patriarchy for all of it. We don't have to take accountability for any of it anymore because apparently we are oppressed and hard done by. Is it all of feminism?
No, I don't think so. There have been four waves of feminism that have, progressingly become less about equality and more [00:25:00] about being victims of the world. Is it all feminists? No. So I'm actually love men and aren't living in a victim consciousness. But it seems like feminism has become a massive echo chamber where most don't even know what the movement means. What the patriarchy even is anymore because of the goalpost keeps moving. And on the note of faith of male feminists, they tend to embody the most patronizing and superior attitudes to women who question what feminism has become. As if we can't even raise a single valid point because we just need to shut up and be grateful for the feminist movement.
Otherwise we wouldn't be allowed to vote. Open a bank account, or even be vocal on social media. As if that means that we can never discuss our concerns with what the movement has become. Male feminists are the weakest version of men. In my opinion, they were like bullied. They will likely bullied or hurt by men and have now made it their life mission to [00:26:00] oppose anything masculine.
Even if that means treading on women in the process. The irony isn't lost on me. And then I've said I'm discussing all of this on next week's podcast, episode of controversial as fuck. And it's juicy. Right? So that was before I did my first feminism episode. I have to read one of these comments. This comes from. GAF dot LVR underscore.
And if they've got a Garfield profile picture, With this comment is fricking hilarious. Your entire account. So this speaking to me, your entire account is literally just pretending to be a victim because you can't. Say the N word.
Uh, say what now?
So, hang on. Your entire account is literally just pretending to be a victim. Now, first of all, let's break that down. I actually, I genuinely have tried to put myself in whoever shoes [00:27:00] of this individual is right. Which is hard because I don't know them. For all I know they're Garfield. Okay. I don't know any, I don't know if they're male, female. Actually, let me try and click on their profile.
Yeah. That's that's all I can see. So I don't know if they're male or female. I don't know what age they are. I don't know what nationality they are. I know nothing about them. It's I'm talking to Garfield. So I'm going to try and put myself in Garfield shoes for a second. Am I pretending to be a victim. Genuinely, I'm trying to think of how I may have come across as a victim. C I. I think this could be my own biases, but I, I don't think I am coming across as a victim because I don't agree with the feminist movement. But I could, I could be blinded to my own victim hood.
That is a thing I absolutely could be acting like a victim. What else am I on my page? Could come across as a victim. I don't think I'm a victim to society. I don't think I'm a victim of. Medical institutions. I don't think I'm a victim of the system. I don't think I'm a victim of men and [00:28:00] toxic masculinity or a Patriot like I've done.
I do struggle to see how I possibly could be coming across as a victim. I actually think I'm coming across as opposite, but again, we are, we can be blind to our own biases, to our own shadows. I understand that. So, They could be right. Garfield. You might be right on this, but the beat. Like bloody oath.
What the crap. Because you can't say the N word. Hmm.
Um, what about that post could possibly come across as though I'm trying. To call someone the N word. I don't mention color. I don't mention rates. I say male. Uh, feminists basically a wankers is what I'm saying. I think they're really gross.
Is that me wanting to say the N word? I dunno, can't wrap my head around that one.
Maybe you can please message me by the way, if you, if I am in hearing me read that out, if you're like, oh, I get it. I see it. This, like, I [00:29:00] genuinely want you to message me for two things, please. When you're listening to this message, meet these two things after the episode. If you can see genuinely where I am coming across as I'm a victim, like I'm a victim to the feminist movement, or I'm a victim to. Whatever it is, please message me and point it out to me because I am the type of individual that wants to grow.
And maybe I'm blind to it. Please point it out because it's something I would want to work on. Secondly, if I come across as though, I really just want to say the N word. Your entire account is literally just pretending to be a victim because you can't say the N word.
Please point it out to me. I can't, I can't see it. Can't see it. I'm sorry, Garfield. I don't see it. But thank you for being in the comment section.While we're on Instagram. I did also have another reel and it says the patriarchy in inverted commerce, and then a pop-up comes up and it says, AKA, [00:30:00] otherwise known as an elusive group that you get to lump all your shitty behaviors, beliefs, lifestyle, and worldview onto so that you don't have to take responsibility in life and you get to remain living in a victim consciousness.
Again, obviously I make my hooks bold. I make them provocative. I make them controversial. For a damn good reason. And then, you know, obviously I, I go deeper in the actual caption, if anyone wants to read it, but I It's swinging around the word, patriarchy, really just a buzzword that women have grasped onto in order to have something else to complain about. To keep themselves in a victim mindset.
You don't have to take charge of your shitty outlook, values, beliefs, behaviors, lifestyle, health, relationships, et cetera. When you get to blame everything on the elusive, patriarchy. And band together with your band of Merry women, cough, bitter women. Who all get to feed off each other's victim outlook. You continually add fuel to the fire of your lack of [00:31:00] self-responsibility.
When you get to lump all your toxic shit onto the patriarchy. Food for thought. And then we've got a comment from Claire, Natalie. So it's clear underscore Nestle. Hey Claire, if you're listening. She said so true blame absolves us of any responsibility. And it is true when we are continually putting blame onto everything around us, for our shitty decisions that we've made in life. For our terrible behaviors that have come with repercussions, maybe it's our lifestyle.
Maybe it's our health. Maybe it's our relationship, breakdowns, whatever it is. If we are continually. Outsourcing all of that blame, putting all that blame onto everything around us, especially when it comes to the patriarchy, like women do get, get out of jail free card when it comes to taking ownership for a lot of this shit that we have. You know,
Created in our own lives, essentially the get out of jail free [00:32:00] card is the patriarchy. Like that's become very evident. If you have toxic. Behaviors. If you have toxic outlook on life, if you, if you are a very manipulative type of woman, If you sleep around, like cheat on your partner.
If you don't leave a healthy kind of life, you just don't give a shit about your health.
By the way, these are all choices you get to make for your life. You get to do that. But what I'm saying is when you, as a woman, Choose to, instead of reaping the percussions of the decisions that we make in our lives of our shitty decisions of our shitty behaviors, instead of being like, yeah, you know what?
I deserve that. Yeah. You know what? That is just a repercussion of my own terrible decisions and behaviors and thoughts and patterns and shadows and whatever it is instead of that, women have this get out of jail free card and it's called the patriarchy and every single time. We as women. Refuse to take responsibility for our own shit in life.
And we just waved the [00:33:00] patriarchy card around. Honestly, we are proclaiming to the world that we are little victims. That is what it is. We get to just blame everything on men. Well, no. Yeah, sure. There are shitty men in the world. Just like there are shitty women. It is not the entire race of men or the, it is not the entire sex of men.
It's not the entire male gender. It's not the entire sex of women. It's not the entire women. Female gender, right? It is individuals that are shitty.
It's not the patriarchy. Patriarchy literally means father Robert. He's a protection. It is of service to the feminine, right? It is a protector. It is a nurturer. It is not oppression. If you choose to see it as oppression. Maybe there's some shit in your own life that you are refusing to deal with.
Maybe you are just reaping the repercussions of some really terrible decisions that you've made in life. And instead of taking responsibility for that, you get the jail, get out of jail free card. Let's wave that around and say, oh, it's the [00:34:00] patriarchy's fault. No, you just are not taking responsibility for any of the shit. That you are actually responsible for in life.
Wow. Just went on a rant. But yes, blame absolves us of any responsibility. It's time that we take responsibility in life And listen, I say this to myself every goddamn day. Right. There are times where I don't take responsibility ability. There are times where I, I would prefer to put blame on someone outside of myself for some of the decisions I've made in my life.
It feels good in the moment. Don't get me wrong.
a relationship breakup, right? It is so easy. Like it is the easy route to just refuse to look in the mirror and just hold the mirror up to the other individual and be like, because of you. This has broken up because you did this. This is what's happened because you, you, you, you and point the finger.
It feels good in the moment to be able to do that because we get to be the, the angelWe get to be the one that doesn't have to take accountability. And in that moment it feels good. But whenever I have done that and [00:35:00] I have done that, I will acknowledge that. Absolutely. There've been plenty of times in my life where I have put blame. I've outsourced the blame. I've refused to put any blame on myself.
There have been plenty of times where I've done that and yes, in the moment it felt good. Because I felt like. My self righteousness was fed. Right? My.
My pride and my ego was fed in that moment, but long-term, it did nothing good for me. I didn't learn from it. I didn't grow from it. I repeated mistakes. Right. That's that's not living. A truly fulfilled and freeing life. Right. We have to take responsibility for our own shit in life. And I tell myself that every single day, like truly every day, I'm like, okay, yep.
This sucks. Whatever it is, whatever situation. Okay. But where have I contributed to that? Okay. I don't like this, but where have I attracted that? Okay. I didn't like how that person spoke to me. Okay. But where have I spoken to myself [00:36:00] in that way? In my life? Or where have I not put up boundaries? Where have I not enforced boundaries or
Where am I just choosingthe comfort of
not having to grow. Where am I just choosing the comfort of being able to play the victim. Right. And I'm, I'm really done with that.
And let's just quickly pop over to Tik TOK, by the way, if you are on Tik TOK and you're not following me, um, what the crap. And I look at the time of recording this.
Like I've literally just joined. Uh, Tik TOK and started posting this week at the time of recording this. So this is probably a couple of weeks before this episode is actually live, but at the time of recording this, I have eight followers. So. Come on Tik TOK guys. Yes.
I share a lot of my rules. So for instance, Whenever I do an episode. I obviously video record it. That video is pushed to YouTube. Right? Then from that video, I get six. Uh, short clips that are between like 30 to 60 [00:37:00] seconds out of that one video and turn them into a YouTube short, which also goes to Instagram, which also goes to Tik TOK, which also goes to my Facebook page.
Right. But then each platform I'm wanting to bring in something different as well. So I get all those, I automate all of that. So then I can free up my time and my head space to actually be able to create unique things for each platform. So I don't want every platform to just have the same content.
Right. So on Tik TOK, I'm going to have things. Things that are exclusive just to tick tock, Instagram, some of the rules, they will be exclusive just to Instagram and obviously YouTube. I have just my long form. Uh, podcast episodes that are put up there as well. So. Yeah, come and join me on Tik TOK is what I'm saying.
God damn it. Hurry up. So I've got a post that's titled viral feminism. Uh, firestorm. It's actually my first tick-tock post that I did. So probably there's a few comments on there. This reel was actually all about how, if you speak up about feminism, how you're basically told that you're going against girl code, that you know, you're [00:38:00] perpetuating the patriarchy in society.
You're the toxic masculine one. You criticize your ostracize. And I'm saying that. That to me is a cultish ideology. Then like, if you cannot question something that should actually be looked into that is something that should be scrutinized, right? Like that is, that's a cultish ideology. If you're never allowed to question any part of it. So anyway, some of the comments. Uh, one that I've really thought was fantastic was by Maskin.
He said, count the feminist. When we go to war with Russia dot.dot. And I said, I predict there will be known. And this is something that you often hear is like, you know, women are screaming out for equal rights, but not when it comes to paying 50 50 on dates, they want the man most, okay. Not all women.
Most women want the man to pay for dates. Right. So, no, we don't want equal rights and responsibilities when it comes to paying for dates. And the other thing is when it goes to conscription to whore, if you know, if there was an all out war right now, most women would be like, heck no, I'm not going to war.
Well, if you're [00:39:00] screaming for equal rights, it has to be all rights. Doesn't it like you can't, we can't just cherry pick which ones we want and be like, oh no, that one's too hard. No, no, no, no. We were little princesses when it comes to that one. No, you can't do that. Women. If we want equal rights for everything, then you need to acknowledge that you're going to go to war at some point, likely, and you need to start paying 50 50 on every single date that any man ever takes you on. He had a great point. And then one that I did not understand his hairdo is F F a R K U P.
Fuck up, I guess. And he wrote, I am sexist. I don't know if he's calling himself sexist or if he's saying I'm sexist, I, this is a thing. When people comment, you don't get full context. Just like when people read my posts, they don't get full context of me or my movement, my message, you know, even the post itself.
Right. So I don't know. I don't know quite what to say to that, but you're welcome to comment on my posts. You weren't welcome here. Absolutely. Mr. I am sexist.
Uh, I think that's enough [00:40:00] for today, legends, because honestly I could talk underwater with a mouth full of concrete. At this point, I feel like I'm a little chatterbox when it comes to my podcast. So, yeah, I hope you enjoyed that. I hope you have an incredible rest of your week.
Thanks as always for popping in for commented chaos. And I'll see you next week, legends with a fresh batch of opinions.
Remember to keep your comments popping and I will keep my replies popping too. I love your guts guys. Have an awesome week. Bye.
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