Ep. 04 | Transgender Agenda: Empowering Choice or Manipulative Influence?
EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Proceed with caution. Welcome to Controversial as Fuck. Welcome back legends.
Welcome to another week. I'm super pumped for today's topic. We're going to be talking, here we go, another deeply contentious issue because I just clearly have nothing better to do with my life than tackle the big issues. But in all sincerity, we're going to be talking about the transgender movement and the kind of broader agenda.
to actually blur gender lines. Now, obviously I've already done a podcast episode all about the pronoun movement. So I suggest you listen to that one first before this one, although some of it will overlap, but definitely have a listen to that one if you haven't, and then come and check this one out. But I'm going to be talking about how I see that there is a massive agenda to basically feminize men and to masculinize women.
Like that's clear as freaking day and it's all about in my opinion really Killing the masculine spirit and even killing the feminine powers that we hold as well It's there's a big push to turn us females into men or to harness the most Masculine energy that we possibly can by the way, I'm not a masculine energy hater.
Let me be clear. I'm a feminine woman And I have masculine energy in me. Every single human being on the planet has masculine and feminine, feminine energy, and it's about balancing the boats. I'm not a masculine energy hater. Like for me, masculine energy is awesome. I love that I'm super disciplined, consistent.
I've got strong drive and ambition. I could go on. I love that side of me, but I'm also a highly feminine woman. It's not about hating on either energies. Let me make that really clear, but I see a very strong agenda to turn women into men and men into women, and it is killing, killing the polarity between a man and a woman.
Now, this whole episode is not about that. It's actually about the transgender movement at large, but I don't think that that is a coincidence, that there is a big push for young people in particular to go and have sex, sex changes. That's, that's not by accident at all, that it is becoming cool to have a sex change as a young individual.
There is definitely a push and a driving force behind it of control to disempower. Because honestly, the easiest way to control a population is to get people freaking confused about who they are first and foremost, and to kill the masculine spirit in a man and to kill the feminine spirit in a woman.
Then we're at war with each other and we're not focused on the bigger issues at large. So this episode, as I said, is all about the transgender movement, but obviously I need to touch on the fact that there is an agenda to blur the lines between the genders. So let's talk about that. Obviously I have, as I've said, there is definitely an aim to weaken true masculine and feminine powers by feminizing men, masculinize, masculinizing women.
It becomes easier to control a population because we're divided and we're disempowered. I do hold the feminist movement to blame for a large portion of this. Now, not fully. I think the feminist movement has achieved some fantastic things. Like I do, I absolutely believe women should be allowed to vote.
I'm not one of those women that thinks that we should not be allowed to vote, like get a life. Yes, we should be allowed to vote. I do see though, and by the way, I know that the feminist movement, that's not all that has come from it. Some great things have come from it and it was needed at the time. But there's different waves of the feminist movement.
And by the way, this podcast episode is not all about that, but just let me set a scene first. The feminist movement has come in different waves and as we've progressed. I think now that it has been used to pit genders against each other. Because as I said before, like we're too busy hating on each other.
We've killed the polarity between man and a woman. We begin to miss the real agendas at play in society and by the system. We need strong, formidable and sovereign men to stand up against the system. And this Weakening of men is a strategic move to prevent that, like that's very clear to me. It is a strategic move to turn men into women because then they cannot stand up as strong, formidable, sovereign men against a system.
It's not just us women alone that are going to be able to take down a system of control. It's going to take strong men. And if the men are too scared to be men these days because of partly to blame us women, like this is not just on the men. Let's, let's be clear women. Let's be true with ourselves. We've had a part to play in this.
We've had a part to play. I'm going to do a whole nother episode on the feminist movement and on masculine and feminine polarities and how every formidable man needs his unwavering queen and vice versa. That'll be a whole nother episode, but I just want to make it clear. I do definitely see that there is an agenda.
To turn men into women and women into men. And this is what gets me into the transgender movement. Now I'm going to give a different take than probably most. First of all, I'm going to talk about why I think there is a push. I mean, I've made that pretty clear already, but why I think it's actually really.
insidious, is that the word? Like it's really scary, but I'm also going to bring a trauma informed lens to it. And I think this is going to be one that you likely haven't heard before in the way that I'm going to bring it. So stick around. So as I said, I definitely see that there's a push to weaken men and women, and this leads me into the transgender movement, especially amongst children and teenagers.
I honestly see this as a sick, sick movement. I want to be clear. I'm not talking about a grown adult who is of age, who is of a developmental age and a consenting age, who decides that they want to transition into a different sex. So let's say a man decides he wants to be a woman or a woman decides she wants to be a man.
I think they have every right to, I do. I really do. I think they have every right to go and change their sex. I do not think that that should be denied to them, but let me be clear. I'm going to bring something at the end of this. that I think should be addressed first. But I do believe that if someone that has thought it through, someone that honestly believes that they are living in the wrong gender, wants to go and change sex, I think that they should be allowed that right.
As an adult who is of a developmental age to make such a life changing, drastic, very radical decision for themselves. What I think is sick is not that. I think that it's sad. I think it absolutely saddens my heart. I think that, and again, I'm going to bring a different lens at the end of this episode, that if that was addressed first, what I will talk about at the end, then maybe they wouldn't go and have a sex change.
But what I think is sick is the push for our young people to think that it's cool and trendy to go and have a sex change or for adults to get into our kids heads. and to confuse them about who the fuck they are as children. You are a sick individual, if you are one of those individuals, who wants to confuse children and teenagers into who they are and what gender they are.
And this is what sickens me about having this in schools, having it as part of an education system, having it in books to teach children about how to be confused about themselves. Like it's sick, trying to confuse them into thinking that something is inherently wrong with them, that they're defunct as they are, that they're not good enough in the body that they're in, that they have to go and change.
It's a sick agenda. As I said before, if an adult chooses to change genders, that is purely their decision. And they're right as an adult who's developmentally ready for such a life changing decision, right? But I don't like that it's glorified and pushed onto children and onto teenagers as the latest fad.
It's been pushed by Hollywood big time. How many Hollywood actors out there now have children that are having sex changes? In fact, some families with like two children having sex changes. What are the freaking odds of that? You cannot tell me that is not some agenda and some push by the elite or by a system, by whatever.
Like, that is not coincidence at all. I really do not like and I despise strongly that it's glorified and pushed onto children and teenagers as some cool fad. Because the repercussions of a decision like that are freaking catastrophic. That is not something you just go and change and then just turn back around in two years and change again.
Especially when you're, you know, changing genitalia, having things removed, having hormones pumped through your body at levels that your body as a man or your body as a woman is not meant to have. Like blocking testosterone in young boys and having oestrogen pumped through them at high levels and vice versa.
He's manipulative. There is such a push to blur traditional gender distinctions. It is so freaking clear to me and to encourage young people to just question their identity so prematurely. It's so problematic. I said in the pronoun episode that as a kid, I, I don't doubt at some point I called myself a boy or was acting like more of a, a boy or whatever it might've been, right?
I used to dress in my older brother's baggy clothes and, you know, thought I was this cool dude. But like, if I was surrounded by people that were grooming me, people that were messing with my head because they had their own unhealed aspects of themselves that they were letting play out in harmful ways.
Yeah. Let's say I had parents that were fucked in the head, which I didn't my parents are freaking amazing But let's say I did and they got attention of the fact that me as a young girl started to act like a boy Maybe they got attention from the school. Maybe my parents got attention from the community So they pushed it like how sick and that is what is happening in our world as I mentioned in the pronoun episode I talked about how in a Perth school that there was a kid.
I don't know how old I actually don't know How old the child was? I don't know if they're a teenager or a young, like really young, but they were, you know, saying they identified as a cat on a particular day at school. And because the teacher didn't meow at them or, you know, pander to whatever it is that they identified as, the teacher was facing either being disciplined or, or actually losing their job.
I'm not sure which one it was, but like, yes, that's a problem with the child, but I see there's a huge issue with the parents. A huge issue with the parents or caregivers or whoever is in that, in that little child or that young person's life because they are not being protected. That child is not being protected.
Like that's clear. If that's being condoned, if that's being encouraged, if that's being normalized by the parents or caregivers or people in that individual's life, that is abuse. Like truly, that is abuse. And this is where I have a real issue. You have young people being groomed or encouraged by adults.
To question who they are at such a young impressionable age. It's so sick to me. It's so manipulative. And I just want to address that obviously there are cases where, you know, there are parents of kids of teenagers and, and these teenagers have been influenced by the school system, by their social circle, who, you know, maybe all their life, they've never questioned their identity whatsoever.
But then now as teenagers, because of the influence, Because of who they surround themselves with. And because this is now deemed as cool to go and have a sex change and to question your identity and to change it up like the wind, it's now gotten to the point where there are actually parents who are like, they're at a loss for what to do and they seek out therapists for help.
And there are actual therapists who encourage the parents that you need to affirm their new gender identity. Otherwise, you know, your teenager will likely commit suicide. Like that's insane pressure put on a parent. You know, they're just seeking help to know how to best navigate helping their teenager and to not make the situation harder than what it needs to be.
And they're getting the worst advice off therapists saying, Affirm their identity. Affirm it to them. What a hard place. Then on the other hand, obviously you've got the parents who influence the kids to change their gender, which I said, and I made it very clear in my pronoun episode that to me, that is just evil, sick and abusive and should never be allowed in the presence of children.
And I also want to make it really clear in this episode as well, that You know, your category doesn't depend on your acceptance of it. I said that in the other episode as well. It's utter delusion and it's actually self abuse to reject the very gender that you are. So yes, I'm saying that I think that as an adult, if you decide to go and have a sex change, that you should be given that right.
I do think that if someone, you know, wants to go and change their sex, like say in their twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, whatever, they should be given that right. But I still believe firmly that it is delusional. I still believe that they are, you know, that is a form of self abuse, that they are rejecting reality by being trans.
Or even those that are binary. You can say that you are that, but it doesn't make you that. You can say that you are now a male when you were born a woman, but it doesn't actually make you that. A trans woman is not a woman and a trans man is not a man. They are simply women masquerading as men and men masquerading as women.
To me as a way to run from themselves and to cover the war that's going on with themselves. And I get into that a lot more at the, you know, towards the end of this episode. But they're basically seeking solace in a place where they're That can never bring true peace because it's not real. It's not reality.
It's a person in pain who is trying to run from their pain. And to me, it's a, it's a distorted view of reality and of their body as well. And one of the things that I mentioned was, In the pronoun episode, who's actually been pushing this, who are the actual scholars and who are the actual, you know, gender theorists who have been pushing that and I didn't really cover it that much in the pronoun episode.
So I just want to briefly mention a couple of them here because I think it's very important. One of those individuals that I mentioned before that I think is super important that we discuss is none other than John Money. And the reason why I really think that we need to look at who these individuals actually are is because they've had a profound impact on shaping how we now see such a fundamental part of us being human, such as our sex and our identity.
So let's take a real quick look at John money in particular, because he has been monumental in pushing this movement forward into where it is today. And no, he isn't the only one and he's not actually the first one, but he's seen as a key figure in making gender fluidity, right? Uh, and the transgender movement be what it is now.
So make it mainstream. It's now a mainstream movement. He's been a key figure in pushing it into the academic world and into institutions. And as I said, he is. This is a highly controversial figure. So he was actually born in New Zealand in 1921. He became a psychologist, right? So he studied at the university of Wellington.
He then moved to the United States. He earned his PhD from Harvard university. He became a prominent psychologist and a sexologist, and he worked at John Hopkins university. So he was right up there amongst scholars. He had strong theories on gender. So he was one of the key figures. That actually started pushing for the fact that your gender identity can be whatever you want it to be.
That it is fluid, that you can change it, it's a social construct and he wanted it to be mainstream. Why am I mentioning him? Well, his big push for this, right, he wanted this to be mainstream, but he had never actually had any case studies of his own where he could be mainstream. You know, test this theory of his until a very, very sad case.
So there was a guy by the name of David Reimer. He was originally born as Bruce. So picture a little baby Bruce who was born in 1965 in Winnipeg, Manitoba in Canada. Yeah. He was one of two identical twin boys. So Bruce, and then he had a twin brother. So these baby boys were born to quite young parents.
They were in their early twenties. They were blue collar workers. They were not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. And these young babies had a condition that was impacting them being able to urinate. So it was something to do with the foreskin of their penises and their parents were encouraged to actually have them circumcised and that this would help them to be able to urinate a bit better.
So young baby Bruce, one of these twin boys underwent a circumcision that actually went horribly wrong. So the actual doctor, the normal procedure that they would do, which would use knife. He did not use it. Poor little Bruce. This is horrific. It actually involved burning it, but the problem was it went horribly, horribly wrong.
And it resulted in the entire destruction of Bruce's penis. So this eight month old baby boy. Lost his entire penis by being burnt off by this doctor. Obviously they didn't go ahead with the second boy with their twin brothers. You know, circumcision and over time, the condition actually went away on its own, which is really sad for Bruce.
The fact that he lost his penis through a circumcision that didn't even need to be done in the first place. But that wasn't just the only issue. What happened was The parents obviously were devastated, didn't know what to do. The fact that one of their little boys now is losing or has lost an integral part of his anatomy and they were just broken.
These poor parents put themselves in their shoes. It would have been very, very tragic and they didn't know what to do. The mother was watching TV one day and saw this John Money on TV, who was talking very confidently. Now, John Money was a very charismatic, very, you know, intellectual guy. He spoke very confidently about his work.
You think about it. He's from Harvard university. He's working at John Hopkins university. He's a psychologist, a sexologist, all the things that I mentioned. And he started talking about how. You know, your gender can be fluid and that you can raise children on whatever gender that you want or that you think that they should be as long as you get them at a very young age.
And so, you know, they got Bruce's parents hook, line and sinker and they went to John Money for help. And so they met with him and John Money actually encouraged the parents to completely change Bruce's sex and said to them that you can actually raise him as a girl. He actually suggested that you get, get a whole sex change, change Bruce into a girl, give him a girl's name, get him to wear girls clothing, and he will not know the difference and never tell him.
So the parents went ahead with Bruce's, uh, with Bruce, with John Money's. advice. So he had gender reassignment surgery at only 22 months of age, right? Underwent surgery to remove his testes because obviously his penis was already gone. They renamed him to Brenda. So Bruce was no more. He was now called Brenda.
And every year, Uh, the parents would take both children. So now Brenda and his twin brother to go and see John Money and to continue to have regular follow up visits. And, you know, he was now going to be this case study that would help to support John Money's theories on gender, on it being fluid. Right.
So he thought he'd hit the jackpot. He now has his own case study. He proclaimed how successful this was to the world. It propelled him in, you know, an academic world. It propelled his theories forward. People started to pay more attention. Wow. You get to change someone's sex and it'd be successful. So.
This little boy, Bruce, was raised as Brenda, as a girl, he did not know, right, he was never told what had happened, but he was not exhibiting typically male behaviours, right, he really struggled with his identity. For instance, he would play with his twin brother's toys all the time, he was very like rough, very like, just typical rough boy.
Boy behaviors. He didn't want to play with the girls toys. He didn't want to sit down and urinate. He wanted to stand up, even though he didn't have a penis. He just a lot of his behaviors were very masculine, right? Very much of a boy instead of a girl. And it was very confusing for him. Not only that, in going and seeing, this all came out later, in going and actually having these sessions with John Money, uh, and going with his brother, John Money obviously was using this as a case study, so he was also using them as like test subjects, and You know, the problem with this is John Money was also a freaking pedophile who was a pervert and he was getting them to act out different things on each other sexually.
So this little boy that was now called Brenda, who was, you know, who thought he was a girl was having to act out sexual things on his twin brother. He, John Money was taking photos of them naked. If they didn't act out sexual things, he would scream at them. You know, and, and these twins were telling their parents that they don't want to go and see him anymore.
And the parents had no idea why they were confused. At the age of 14, Brenda was told the truth about the, what happened at, you know, the circumcision, the medical history, uh, you know, the fact that they actually turned him into living as a girl. And. It was actually a relief finding it out because this little boy, Bruce, who was now Brenda had always felt like he was a guy anyway.
And so he chose to revert to living as a male. He renamed himself David. So David Reimer, and he started living as a male and all of this was kept secret. Right? So here's this John Money out there parading the fact that his case study was highly successful, but nobody actually knew that. Actually, it wasn't successful at all.
And there was a lot of issues. There was, you know, David underwent all these surgeries to reconstruct a male appearance and tried to lead a normal life. He also married and became a stepfather, but he continued to face severe emotional trauma. Like obviously very, very traumatic. There was issues between the brothers, right?
Because it was hard for the, the twin brother to even explain. David, because it was so confusing for him. And his twin brother ended up actually overdosing on drugs. And it was just a traumatic time for the whole family. It was also a traumatic time for David Reimer because in 2004, at only the age of 38, he ended up committing suicide.
And his story is a tragic example of the potential harm of imposing gender reassignment on children without their consent. But not just that, it was the fact that this John Money was using, like he'd never had a case before. Now he finally got his grip. He finally got his grip on a family to be able to use them as a case study and parade the fact that he was successful, that his theories were successful.
And this was behind a big push of. You know what it has become today. And the thing is, it was not until David was an adult that he actually came out and said, listen, this was not a success. Like it got to him that it was being paraded as that he's like, this, there was nothing successful about this. This is completely impacted my life, my family.
And obviously in the end, it was even more tragic. And the fact that John money, like literally was a pedophile. Right. And there was concerns about his interactions with his patients and his controversial views on childhood sexuality. And it was just unethical and absolutely abusive. And no, obviously this was not the only person that was pushing for pronouns and for gender.
You know, gender reassignment surgery and sex changes and all the things. But he was a key monumental figure and it was right before the whole sexual revolution and before feminism became what it, you know, what it is today. And obviously. You know, he was seen as a pioneer in this field, and that is deeply concerning to me.
You've also got, I think, I don't think I did mention her in the pronoun episode, but there's a woman by Simone de Beauvoir, probably butchered her surname, but she was a French woman born in 1908 in Paris, in France. She was a feminist. She had a big influence on the fact that, or she wrote a book that even said that, You know, it's, you're not born a woman, it's through social conditioning and she had obviously big influence in that.
She even said that one is not born, but brother becomes a woman. Like she's known for saying that she was another one that was a big push behind it. Then there's Judith Butler, who was a feminist from America who has been a big push, a big like voice for this particular movement. And I mean, I could go on this, there's quite a few that have been quite prominent in having a push for transgender.
The transgender movement for gender identity is being fluid. And honestly, when I look at some of these individuals, because I have looked extensively at some of them in their lifestyles, in their, their outlooks, their beliefs, the way that they lead their lives. And from what I can see, I personally would not trust these individuals to be spokespeople for such big movements like this that have catastrophic effects on people's lives.
And. I think it's important that we look at that and we don't just ignore that. And I also think, and I know this will be hugely contentious and controversial, but I think that if you do transition, and obviously I'm about to get into it from a very different lens in a second, but let me just make this clear.
I think if you do transition as an adult, so for instance, a man who decides to be a woman and actually transitions to a woman, I think that when you go through with that, you actually should be making agreement. God, this is going to get me some backfire, but I think you should be making agreement that one, you do not compete in competitive sports as a trans woman with actual women.
Like, I just don't agree with that at all. You see, like, for instance, female swimmers and female wrestlers who are competing with People that are biologically men, like what chance do these women have competing against a male? It's just, it's not fair whatsoever. Also, I think that it should be a given, something that you agree to when you transition, that you will not be going and using female bathrooms if you're a trans woman.
That's my, I, I will stand on that hill firmly. Like, I do not think that it is right and that it is okay for a trans woman, so someone that is biologically a male, to be allowed to use female bathrooms, where there are women and young girls in those bathrooms. I just don't agree with that. And no, I'm not saying that they're sexual predators.
I just don't think that it's the right thing to do. That will give me backlash. I know. Now back to what I was saying before there are social movements, the media, the education systems that haven't like a profound impact on shaping the perceptions of gender. And whilst I do think compassion is absolutely necessary, and I'm going to get into that in a second, a lot of these narratives, honestly, are just downright overstepping and going beyond the realms of support and acceptance that they're being paraded as.
into places to me that are like unnecessarily confusing and promoting life altering decisions at a stage when not developmentally ready. A child being encouraged to question their identity is abuse in my opinion. It is so fucking abusive. A teenager being taught to question their gender, their sex, their identity, whatever, is fucking abusive.
Whoever is in their life that is an adult that is pushing this, promoting this, making this seem as though it's safe. It's the right thing to do. You should be questioning. You're allowed to question blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It is abuse. In my opinion, there's a difference when they are an adult. If they are a hundred percent like, no, this is what I want.
That is different. They are an adult. They can make that decision for themselves. It is abuse. When you are pushing that on your children and on your teenagers, it is so natural to explore and to question things in childhood. And as, and as a teenager, it's so normal. That doesn't mean go and completely change your identity.
You probably said you were as a tree as a kid. Let's think about it. You probably said you were a fairy or a unicorn. Does that mean you're going to turn yourself into one permanently? It's normal to explore. Childhood is all about self discovery. Childhood is about self discovery, right? I don't think life altering decisions about gender, about changing your gender, should be encouraged or should be promoted as cool, which as I said, Hollywood has been a massive proponent of.
It's not a coincidence, in my opinion, this is so freaking deliberate that it's sickening. And this is what I want to talk about from a trauma lens. Now stick with me. I, a lot of my, if you're a client of mine or you're someone that looks at my work and is drawn to it, you likely will be repelled by the word trauma.
And I understand. I was one of those individuals where I, to me, using the word trauma and slinging it around meant that you were a very, uh, actually one of two of these. You either had been through extremely traumatic situations like war, like extreme car accidents or sexual abuse, right? Or you were a complete victim who had barely been through anything in life.
But you wanted to pretend that you had been through a ton of shit, just so that you get attention. And honestly, most really radically self responsible human beings will likely view the word trauma in either of those two ways. You're one end of the extreme. So most of my clients are not drawn to the word trauma because it's either one of those two camps.
And they would either say, well, look, I've never been through a war, so I don't have trauma, or I, you know, just don't want anything to do with that word because I see it as such a victim y way of moving through life. So let me just explain what I mean when I say, I want to look at this through a trauma lens.
Think of it this way. We all have unhealed aspects of ourself. Just stick with me. Think of it in a way of cells in our body for a second, right? So our actual cells, basically in our body, think of every emotion that you feel is a peptide inside our body. It originated in the hypothalamus, which is a gland in the brain, right?
And these peptides, they come through the pituitary gland into our bloodstream and they connect with the cells in our body. The cells in our body react differently based on a higher or lower frequency level. So obviously, you know, if you're feeling, let's say peace. Then that's a higher frequency, um, you know, vibration of an, of a emotion.
So a peptide, then what if you're feeling shame is right. So the cells will react differently based on the, the emotion that you're feeling, whether it's deemed as high vibe or lower vibe, now the peptides. So these emotions are actually metabolized by the cells in our body. This is important. Please stick with me.
I know that you're like, what the crap is she going on about right now? We were just talking about changing genders. And now we're talking about peptides and cells. It will make sense. If a peptide, so if an emotion connects with a cell in our body and it's in the process of being metabolized, so that cell starts to metabolize that peptide, which means you are feeling the feeling of that emotion.
It's in the process of being felt. It's in the process of the cell metabolizing it. But you stop it, whether you realize it or not. It's not like you go, Hey, cell, stop metabolizing. No, what will actually happen is you'll be feeling something that you don't want to fucking feel. And you're like, Oh, Oh hell no, we're not going there.
So you stop it and you suppress it subconsciously. It's not necessarily conscious. You're not saying, Oh, go and suppress it for a rainy day. We'll feel it next Tuesday. No, you, it just gets suppressed. So that cell stops metabolizing that peptide, stops digesting that emotion because you want to feel differently.
Then other peptides are released. So we go back to the hypothalamus, the gland in the brain starts releasing different peptides based on what emotion we want to feel. And the cells start digesting those particular peptides. But what does that mean? Does that mean that those original emotions that we didn't want to feel and that was suppressed just eventually go away on their own.
No, the cells end up clogged. The cells in our body end up clogged by all of these unmetabolized peptides, which actually block the cells ability to To function optimally. I'm an optimization coach. I'm all about optimizing every aspect of our life through this work. This is the work that I do. It's about bringing healing to the very cells in our body in a way that we probably have never even thought of before.
You think about it, we focus on our diet and our exercise. We're ninjas in the gym. We look after our health. Health is up there as one of our highest values in life. We take it seriously. We'll be the ones that will hop into the ice baths and then the saunas and the ice baths, then the saunas. We'll be the type going to breath work sessions.
You know, we will have someone help to push us in every aspect of life. We'll have mindset coaches. We'll have coaches for all different things because we are the type that want to be the best versions of ourselves possible. Not from a place of lack, but But from a place of fricking overflowing life, we are the formidable men and the unwavering women.
That is who we are. That's how we lead our lives. We lead our lives with absolute intention in every area of our life. But guess what? Even doing all of those things, We are adults with cells that are clogged up with shit, probably from when we were children, teenagers and even adults. And it is affecting the me me me blah blah blah blah, the molecular and cellular function.
Here we are with these unprocessed, often unconscious emotions stored in our bodies as adults. They're not digested, right? They have not been metabolized by the cells. They've been suppressed and they do not go anywhere. In fact, how do they play out? Well, we get by for a period of time until all of a sudden we start to have chronic anxiety.
Maybe the stress levels are so high to the point that we're like, okay, I shouldn't be this stressed and I'm not managing it very well. It can play out as jaw clenching, especially in men, but even women, I have clients that have had chronic jaw clenching, really terrible sleep, like terrible, terrible sleep for long periods of time for some of my clients.
I see it play out as numbing behaviors, which can be things like impulse control issues. You can be the biggest warrior with self control as far as, you know, discipline and consistency with the gym, with how you eat, with, you know, every aspect of your life. You live with radical self responsibility. Don't worry.
This is going to all make sense soon. When I talk about the transgender community, it's going to make sense. You can have radical levels of self responsibility. But you can have these unprocessed emotions stored in your body, which come out as impulse control issues with things like sugar. It can be with alcohol.
I see it with vaping. Some of my clients were vaping a lot. It can be with online shopping. It can be with porn. There's so many different ways. Phone scrolling, being addicted to your phone. For a lot of women in particular, it can play out as the inability to receive. Same with men, but especially with women.
I see this with a lot of my female clients, just unable to receive help, unable to receive sexually. Maybe they're awesome at giving, giving, giving, giving, but struggle to receive. With both males and females, I see a lot of the inability to rest. This all stems from unprocessed emotions in the cells in your body.
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Now how does this lead on to the fact that I'm talking about people transitioning? Well, and here comes my very unique take on this topic. Is transitioning a way to escape trauma? And this is why I have, and it gets me so freaking emotional. I have high levels of compassion for someone as an adult. Who is so confused on their gender and who genuinely feels like they're in the wrong body.
They're in the wrong body. You imagine, put yourself in their shoes, how confusing that would be. But here are some questions that I have asked repeatedly to myself over and over and I don't mean because I've questioned my identity. I mean to understand this, this community and these people that are questioning their own identity.
Is transitioning a way to escape trauma? Are these adults that have been through very traumatic things as children or as teenagers? And they're literally running. They're running from who they are. Is it a form of self harm, like surgical self harm and being at full on war at your past pain, at your past trauma?
I look at people that have transitioned and often I do see so much pain behind their eyes when I've looked at interviews and people that have spoken publicly about it. So much pain. And no, I'm not suggesting that every single person that has transitioned has had the most Toughest upbringing. I'm not saying that, but I do think those that actually go through with a full on sex change, there's got to, it's got to stem from something, someone who is radically self responsible, someone who lives with a lot of discipline and consistency, someone who is very fit, very healthy.
Like very health conscious. Someone who sits in the sun and enjoys getting vitamin D from the sun. Someone who drinks a lot of really good water, who gets good sleep. Like someone who's living a fulfilled life, who has love in their life, people they care for, someone who is giving maybe back to their community, giving to their friends, like that type of individual would not just wake up one day and want to change sex.
That just does not happen. And those are the guidelines by how I really view someone in life based on all of those things plus more, but how's their mindset, how's their outlook, what's their beliefs in life. These govern who we are and how we move through life. So when I think of someone who is genuinely confused on their sex, to me, Honestly, I believe it is rooted in unprocessed emotional trauma, emotional baggage, emotional pain that is trapped in the cells of their body and is making them so confused.
Another thing that I wondered, and this is from, you know, looking at countless interviews with people that have had sex changes, is it the annihilation of a parent who resides inside you? So is someone who is questioning their identity and wants to get a sex change, is it because When they look at themselves, let's say they're a man and they want to transition to a female.
Is it because when they look in the mirror as a man, they are reminded of their father, someone who hurt them, someone who didn't protect them. So, you know, this surgical self harm is a way to remove all traces of their dad. Or the memory of their dad from their own body, so that nothing about that individual will ever resemble the very man who caused them the most pain, or vice versa if it's a woman, transitioning into a man, maybe, you know, they're trying to wipe all traces of their mother from their life and from their very body.
Does the transition of your gender from one to another feed into your deep and painful longing to be seen, to be validated, to be noticed? Like, this is heavy to think about, like I've, in, in doing a bit of research for this podcast episode, like I know I'm a tough ass sometimes when it comes to viewing things, like when I see something that I think is an injustice, like for instance, the push for changing gender onto kids, like I have, I draw a hard line, like a hard fuck off with that movement.
Get away from our fricking kids. Like I know I can be a tough ass when it comes to stuff like that, but for good reason, but I'm not a hard ass. When I think of an adult who is genuinely confused and is coming from a place of pain, because to me, there is a deep and painful longing to be seen. And maybe that individual is trying to escape their past.
Maybe that man who's trying to transition into a woman is going to finally feel seen as a woman. That's what he's craving. He wants to be seen because maybe as a child, he never felt seen by his parents or his caregivers. Maybe the very people who are meant to be there for him most in life weren't. And now his way of being seen is by turning himself into a woman.
Did you, as a child, and I'm speaking to someone, by the way, not you, if you're not questioning your identity, I mean someone who's genuinely confused. Did they, as a child, not have the protection from their mother as a little boy, for instance, and then they went and they're seeking her tenderness, her love by changing sex.
Therefore they, they are escaping in the world of femininity. Because I'm thinking of like a little boy, he can be drawn to the tenderness of femininity and escape there. A little boy feeling drawn to being a little girl because then life will be easier. Life will feel safer. That little boy is probably, as he's getting older, becoming terrified of his own testosterone.
Doesn't understand it, doesn't know what to do with it. Nothing about his surroundings feels safe in his own body, in his own life. And vice versa. Do you as say a little girl, Or, you know, a young girl who's questioning her, her gender. Maybe, maybe she's an adult now and she reflects back onto when she was a little girl.
Maybe she didn't have the protection from her dad. Was he not there for her? She felt unsafe in a girl's body, especially if there's sexual abuse involved. You know, knowing full well that maybe if she was a boy, she would have been better protected. Maybe she would have been more revered, more respected.
So then she starts to get lost in the idea of masculinity and feeling safer there. And instead of, you know, knowing how to heal and being able to start to address those unprocessed emotions in the cells in her body, and then being able to have a healthy relationship with a masculine man, and they can balance each other and she can feel safe in that dynamic, which would be beautiful.
Instead of that, this girl, this woman gets lost in the world of masculinity. She feels safer there, to the point that she transitions into a male. Some don't go full on into transitioning. Some just become very, very masculine women. And this is what I see as an issue with the feminist movement. I see it being driven by women who were wounded by men when they were younger.
They were wounded. There's no denying that, but instead of them taking responsibility for their healing and for processing and feeling the pain, they've become very masculine, masculine women to the point that they are now man haters. And it becomes a driving force for them. They feel safe being this masculine woman, but they hate men.
Again, that'll be a whole nother episode, but back to being, you know, transgender or questioning identity. Does going through abuse in life when left unhealed actually cause a distortion in sexuality and in gender? I think yes, since becoming trauma informed, since dealing with, especially as a police officer, I dealt with so much trauma.
Like I saw so much trauma in my time as a cop, then becoming trauma certified and studying extensively trauma and the impacts of it on our body and our neurological system, our health, our outlook, our beliefs, our behaviors, everything. I do see going through trauma and going through abuse when left unhealed, when left unchecked.
It causes a distortion in sexuality. Now not with everyone. I'm not suggesting that because then it also depends on your environment. Depends on your environment, who's surrounding you, who's influencing you, who's speaking into your life. And this is why, again, I draw the line when it comes to people influencing children over their gender and over their sex and even their sexuality, encouraging changes, big changes in their life.
They're being groomed by adults and it's sick. It is a sick fucking agenda. I get my back up about it so much. But someone as an adult, if they're genuinely questioning, are they just running from themselves? Same person, different looking body, same trauma, different comfort blanket. If you can't accept who you are in this lifetime, it's honestly as if, it's as if you're not here.
It's as if you're trying to erase all aspects of the past and it cannot be erased without healing. And by healing, I just mean feeling. That's what it is. It's not about going to someone for healing. I believe we heal ourselves. It's not about going and, you know, seeking that outside of yourself. It's going within.
With a guide, with someone to help, like myself, but it's about feeling what is unprocessed within. Continually running from ourselves and from the stored pain that is being left unresolved is not, it's not going away. It doesn't go anywhere. It stays within the cells in our body. Healing requires us to radically accept ourselves as we are.
Now, obviously I'm saying this in regards to someone that is questioning their identity and wanting to transition. This is what I, this is what I was saying earlier on. I think if this work was addressed first, if the unprocessed emotions from their past was addressed first, If they were able to feel the feelings that are seeking to be felt, and it does not take a long period of time, I honestly think most would not transition.
Most wouldn't transition. You would begin to accept yourself as you are, instead of morphing yourself into something that you're actually not. It's about accepting the essence of who you actually are, who you were born in this lifetime. Accepting that essence of that individual. And this is why I say, like, it should not be pushed onto children and teenagers.
It's at all. I think it is sick. I think I've made that really fricking clear. It is a sick, sick agenda and anyone who pushes it, I think should not be around children. Genuinely. I think they should not have influence on children and teenagers. They should not be in teaching positions. They should not be parents.
They should not have any influence over children and teenagers. Absolutely ever. They should not be in a, in a leadership role or like a, some sort of influence on them because it is sick. Absolutely. And it's dangerous. And these are lifelong changing decisions that are being made. Do not get into children's head about their gender, about their sexuality.
Let things unfold as they are. Let children be children. Let them question themselves. Don't you go and influence it. Because one day they'll say they're a tree. The next day they'll say they're a unicorn and then they'll back to being, to be a little boy the next day. And that's okay. That's part of adolescence and childhood.
It's play, it's adventure, it's having fun. It's not having your school teacher read you a freaking book about what gender you are today. Like, seriously. This is why I think this kind of work of being able to sit with our emotions, with someone that actually knows what they're freaking doing, and actually, you know, feeling what has been unprocessed, what's unconscious, what's laying inside our bodies, that's just residing there and stored there.
I think this work is so profound and so incredibly healing. And this is why I see literally weekly with my clients, clients that have gone from having high, high levels of anxiety of sleepless nights of jaw clenching of impulse control issues to be able to turn it around in a matter of sessions doing this work and no longer living with high levels of anxiety or jaw clenching or impulse control issues or inability to rest or whatever it might be.
The list goes on. Things turn around quite drastically. Quite quickly, when you actually are able to sit with the emotions that are seeking to be resolved, you actually close the loop. It's a trauma loop. That's what it is, in neurologically in your body and in the cells in your body. That loop comes to a resolution, which means it's no longer stored in your body.
It's able to be digested. It's able to be processed and then it's released in its own timing. It's not forced. It doesn't take a long period of time. This is why I reject mainstream narratives of healing takes years and it means you have to talk to a therapist for 20 years. No it does not. It does not.
And this is also why I just wish that every single person that was genuinely confused as an adult on their gender could honestly do some form of root cause therapy root cause work first. To address the unprocessed emotions, because I really do believe most would then not go through with the transition.
So that's my hot take on the transgender movement on the movement to turn men into women, women into men, you know, the feminist movement brief briefly touched on that, I'll do a whole nother podcast episode on my opinion on that. I mean, it's pretty clear. I do not consider myself a feminist. I think it has been weaponized massively now to completely kill polarity between men and women to, you know, as I said, turn men into women, women into men, but also to kill the family unit unit.
Like there is a push to no longer have a traditional family unit. And I think that's sick as well, but anyways, I hope you've enjoyed this. This is a different take. As I said, I see it very, very different to most. I, yeah, I think that I have so much compassion and love for someone who genuinely is confused about their identity, but I think.
That there are issues when it comes to pushing on kids and teenagers. That is where I draw the line big time. Hope you have an incredible rest of the week. Please join in the conversation as always come and, you know, join in on Instagram, message me, email me. If you want to get on the podcast with me, I'd love to have you come and have a chat with me.
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